today I decided to answer the key questions asked to everyone of you to answer for yourself in my blog entry about how to transform work into a meaningful activity that makes you happy while doing it.
So here we go:
What are my personal aims?
- being able to perform frequently as a singer with a band
- writing songs for your soul
- supporting my loved ones as well as my friends
- changing the world for the better, beginning with me
- working on my personal projects, e.g. my favorite future fashion store
- Owning and running a farm with my love
- Staying abroad every three years for six months, at least three times in my life
- Having children one day
- Succeeding at and enjoying work
What are things that I like to do?
- having visions and breaking them down to reality
- supporting/mentoring people
- writing lyrics
- exercising with my band
- having singing lessons with my great singing teacher
- sparetime activities with my love and/or friends
- blogging (both communicating and writing)
- analyzing and solving problems
What are things that I don’t like to do?
- most of the housework so I try to automate it wherever it is possible
- repetive tasks (except for exercising)
- eating bad because alternatives are harder to reach or even worse
- working in a known to be suboptimal way and continuing to work that way
What am I good at?
- analyzing problems
- solving problems
- supporting people
- running my blog (I am still learning but never thought I could met that much wonderful people out here)
What am I bad at and do I want to change something about it?
- housework (I am slow and I don’t like to do it so I want to automate it, my birthday wish is a dishwasher)
- drawing (it is enough for sketches to explain something to somebody, so I might not change it for some time)
- recognizing vip faces on TV (it is actually fun, so I can live with it)
- staying serious (sometimes I overdo it with comedy, working on this one)
- working because I have to (I want to reduce the “have to” work to a minimum, so I will stay with my “I don’t like it, I only do it for the deadline or for not having to worry about it anymore” attitude)
- if you recognize anything I could be bad at, please let me know so I can decide if I want to change it. Thanks!
When do I feel happy?
- when I sing
- when I support/mentor someone
- when I work on something that means much to me, e.g. on my own projects
- when I communicate with people I like
- when I get great feedback and feel connected to someone
- when things are doing great with my love
- when I solved a problem
- when I eat something tasty (even better if it is healthy, too)
What is it then that makes me feel happy?
- for singing it is the harmony of my body, the rhythm and my words reaching out for the audience which gives me a feeling of control and power and meaningfulness
- for supporting/mentoring someone, it is the feeling that I make a difference and make a life better/show someone how to change his/her life for the better and support him/her doing so
- for working on something that means much to me, it is the feeling that I am pursuing my dreams and that I could make a difference
- for communicating, it is the learning, the thinking, the supporting and the emotions and relations which change and mostly improve dynamically and make it exciting and meaningful
- for getting great feedback, it is recognition and the connection even reinforces this recognition and gets me into support/mentor mode
- for my love, it is the love and the mutually pursuing of our dreams
- for having solved a problem, it is the feeling of making a difference and of “fiero“
- for eating well it is the feeling that I have done something I have to in the most enjoyable way
Is there any chance to trigger the reason for that happiness more often (e.g. by changing your workplace, join your working place community (or found it) or invest more time in a particular spare time activity)?
- I want to change my working position to a kind of mentor/problem manager and teambuilder for at least 20% of my work time by October 2013 (I then have finished my studies and begin to “really” work (before there were only the working phases of my cooperative studies).
- I want to continually manage my available time to be able to sing, to communicate/to blog, to meet with friends, to work on my projects and to spend great time with my wonderful love.
- I want to continually analyze when I feel unhappy or unsatisfied and try to change these situations.
When do I wish to change something and why do I think this change is impossible instead of trying to go for the change?
- I never think of change as impossible, I divide it only into “change now, required ressources and opportunities as well as the importance for change do exist” and “change later if it is still necessary then”.
When do I blame others and could I not do something about solving the problem myself if it is that important to me?
- Whenever I catch myself blaming others, I think about this question and whenever I catch someone blaming others, I ask him/her this question (normally in a more subtle way so that I lead him/her to the answer without having asked this question).
That’s it for now, hope you enjoyed reading and want to answer these questions for yourself now. I will definitely answer them again in something like a half year to see what has changed/if something has changed.
Have a great day & may peace surround you,