A Sketch Of The Face Of Happiness (Part II)

Howdy folks,

I'm on my way to happiness. Wanna join me?

I’m on my way to happiness. Wanna join me?

As I told you on my last sketch of the face of happiness post I made two decisions:

  • Whenever 3 persons answered my key questions to happiness I will post another sketch of the face of happiness summing up their answers and adding them up to the already existing sketch of the face of happiness. This way I want to draw an image of how happiness can look like and what are the ways to achieve it (hope it will show that one can achieve happiness whatever and whenever someone does something, as long as he/she loves to do it).
  • I will award everyone that answers my key questions to happiness and lets me know about it with an “On my way to happiness” award with the following conditions:
    1. Post your answers to my key questions to happiness on your blog.
    2. Post the award’s logo on your blog with a link to your post in which you answer my key questions to happiness.
    3. Tell your followers about your way to happiness and let me know whenever someone of your followers answers my key questions to happiness.

So now here are my key questions and Gabriel‘s, Ann‘s and ShadowedTeenager‘s answers, I recommend you to listen to my personal playlist with all my favorite music (click “play all” below,  song recommendations appreciated).

Questions and answers CD2

Questions and answers CD2 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

1. What are my personal aims?

Gabriel:

Thanks to having lived a life full of indecision and doubt, I’ve written so many incomplete short stories and novels, I could be famous by now if I had paid close attention to my projects. Fortunately, I’ve become a more responsible person, who is only focused on one project at a time. Therefore, the book I am working on is my only personal aim right now.

Ann:

I aim to sow love and kindness by helping others realize just how much God loves them; and that choices in life are ours to own. I aim to be a loving wife and step mom someday soon. God is still working on him.

ShadowedTeenager:

I’m not  to sure at the moment as I’m only 14 but I want to become a teacher and have my own family.  I’ve written down my bucket list here so  there are a couple of aims.  Obviously as I get older I will have more personal aims but for the moment it’s just the simple ideas that I can think of.  But I do want to get promoted to Corporal at my squadron.

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2. What are things that I like to do?

Gabriel:

Through my writings, I’ve always mentioned something about Netflix. Well, guilty as charged; Besides reading books, I also love to watch a couple of movies and TV shows once in a while. And, before I forget, I like to play Fifa 13 on my iPhone.

Ann:

I like to write, read and play Candy Crush Saga. 😜 I like encouraging others to roll with life challenges because challenges help us grow and are temporary.

ShadowedTeenager:

Spending time with my friends, reading other people’s blogs, writing my own blog, READING!!!! Writing, doing cadets and being with my family

Crop of Happy face ball.jpg

Crop of Happy face ball.jpg (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

3. What are things that I don’t like to do?

Gabriel:

Arguing. I loathe to have an argument, specially with people who are not open to recognizing their mistakes. I am not saying that I am Superman or Einstein’s-long-lost child. I do make mistakes, too, and I appreciate when someone tells me about them. However, I think two people shouldn’t opt to arguments and fights over something that can be fixed with politeness alone.

Ann:

I don’t like chores. I can always put them off for another day.

ShadowedTeenager:

Having to put up with boys in my year being sexist, feeling rotten about women in places such as Saudi Arabia having no rights, HOMEWORK!! Tiding my room, umm more HOMEWORK!

Happiness

Happiness (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

4. What am I good at?

Gabriel:

Without trying to sound pompous, I think I am good at writing; otherwise, why the hell am I doing it everyday? The beauty of it is that I get to learn more and more everyday. In fact, I just pulled out of my car an old copy of a book on Grammar, which I am going to read one more time, just to remember a little bit a about the art of writing. 

Ann:

I am good at seeing things from a different perspective–seeing the good in most situations and people. I am good at expressing myself and bringing a smile to someone’s face.

ShadowedTeenager:

I’m good at being a cadet ;) Good at reading and making time for friends and family. Making my homemade tomato sauce. Ohh making a mess of the kitchen when I make fancy cupcakes! ;)

Happy Tomatos

Happy Tomatos (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

5. What am I bad at and do I want to change something about it?

Gabriel:

I am really bad at math, I have to admit it. And no, I don’t want to do anything about it. My phone has a calculator I can use in case I need to. 

Ann:

I am bad at calculating percentages. Ugh. Yes, I would like to be able to calculate them easier.

ShadowedTeenager:

My drawing skills are Awful (note the caps A) but I’m not to worried about that. My poetry skills could be improved that’s why I practice write a load on this blog. Umm being squirmish when it comes to biology things like dissecting rats because I need to have the guts to be able to dissect things

Happy Baby! I can't help but smile every time ...

Happy Baby! I can’t help but smile every time I look at this picture. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

6. When do I feel happy?

Gabriel:

I feel happy every time I look at the books I’ve sold so far. I could say that I am happy after I write them, but honestly, the happiest moment I have as a writer is when someone actually reads what I write. 

Ann:

I am spirit led and usually can maintain happy regularly. Sometimes, I have to faith it through a challenging moment. Praising God helps me stay happy.

ShadowedTeenager:

Mostly when I’m with my family because I know that they are real and are not fair weather friends like some people are. Also around one of my best friends because we are soo similar and find the same things funny and she stays with me through thick and thin.

A Little Happiness

A Little Happiness (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

7. What is it then that makes me feel happy?

Gabriel:

Yes, the only way is to keep hustling every single day until I become a well-known writer. 

Ann:

Everyday that God wakes me up makes me happy and blessed. Happy is knowing who you are!

ShadowedTeenager:

Having the feeling that someone is there for me not just there when it suits them. Also if I’m struggling there’s always someone to help me sought it out

Cropped screenshot of Audrey Hepburn from the ...

Cropped screenshot of Audrey Hepburn from the trailer for the film Roman Holiday. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

8. Is there any chance to trigger the reason for that happiness more often (e.g. by changing your workplace, join your working place community (or found it) or invest more time in a particular spare time activity)?

Gabriel:

Gabriel did somehow stop answering my key questions after question 7. You might ask him for his answers on this question here.

Ann:

I stay prayed up and walking by faith daily!

ShadowedTeenager:

1.Hang with real people not fake one’s but most of my friends are real! 2.Never ever go to school again just have friends over all the time/go out with my family ;)

Bring Back My Happiness

Bring Back My Happiness (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

9. When do I wish to change something and why do I think this change is impossible instead of trying to go for the change?

Gabriel:

Gabriel did somehow stop answering my key questions after question 7. You might ask him for his answers on this question here. 

Ann:

Change is a daily thing. Each day we have the opportunity to become better and more loving individuals. Life is a process!

ShadowedTeenager:

Sometimes I wish I could change people for what I see is for the better but that would just make everyone be like robots plus people have human rights so are allowed to actually have the right to make their own choices even though I may think it’s wrong.

We all live with the objective of being happy,...

We all live with the objective of being happy, our lives are all different and yet the same ———- Anne Frank (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

10. When do I blame others and could I not do something about solving the problem myself if it is that important to me?

Gabriel:

Gabriel did somehow stop answering my key questions after question 7. You might ask him for his answers on this question here.

Ann:

As we grow and mature, we have to take responsibility for our own stuff. Blaming others serve no real purpose except delaying the truth that we make choices sometimes that are not good for us.

ShadowedTeenager:

The biggest annoying problem i have is the fact women in the Arab Springs have no equal rights and if I could do something to help I really would but what can I do at the moment, I’m 14 and all my friends think I’m crazy because I want to help these women.

I'm on my way to happiness. Wanna join me?

I’m on my way to happiness. Wanna join me?

These were Gabriel, Ann and ShadowedTeenager answering my key questions to happiness. We are on our way to happiness. If you want to join us, here are the ten questions:

1. What are my personal aims?

2. What are things that I like to do?

3. What are things that I don’t like to do?

4. What am I good at?

5. What am I bad at and do I want to change something about it?

6. When do I feel happy?

7. What is it then that makes me feel happy?

8. Is there any chance to trigger the reason for that happiness more often (e.g. by changing your workplace, join your working place community (or found it) or invest more time in a particular spare time activity)?

9. When do I wish to change something and why do I think this change is impossible instead of trying to go for the change?

10. When do I blame others and could I not do something about solving the problem myself if it is that important to me?

Thank you very much for reading, if you decide to answer these questions please share your answers with me.

Thank you for being here.

Yours sincerely,

Chris

P.S.: You can find more posts of the Sketch Of The Face Of Happiness series here.

A Sketch Of The Face Of Happiness (Part I)

Howdy folks,

I'm on my way to happiness. Wanna join me?

I’m on my way to happiness. Wanna join me?

as two of my friends, Linda and Michelle, already answered my key questions to happiness and I hope many of you may follow I made two decisions:

  • Whenever 3 persons answered my key questions to happiness I will post another sketch of the face of happiness summing up their answers and adding them up to the already existing sketch of the face of happiness. This way I want to draw an image of how happiness can look like and what are the ways to achieve it (hope it will show that one can achieve happiness whatever and whenever someone does something, as long as he/she loves to do it).
  • I will award everyone that answers my key questions to happiness and lets me know about it with an “On my way to happiness” award with the following conditions:
    1. Post your answers to my key questions to happiness on your blog.
    2. Post the award’s logo on your blog with a link to your post in which you answer my key questions to happiness.
    3. Tell your followers about your way to happiness and let me know whenever someone of your followers answers my key questions to happiness.

So now here are my key questions and Linda’s, Michelle’s and my answers, I recommend you to listen to “Mozart – Piano Concerto No. 23 in A, K. 488 [complete]” (click play below) like Michelle did while answering the questions and I did so while reading her answers.

Questions and answers CD2

Questions and answers CD2 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

1. What are my personal aims?

Linda:

To gain a following on Youtube, learn to meditate

Michelle:

My personal aim at the moment is to find a good balance in my life so that I give as much to myself as I do everyone else. Therefore I will be happier, less stressed and accomplish more of the things that are important to my me and my well-being! I would like to be more active, take care of our money better and finish something that I started years ago that is very dear to my heart.

Chris:

  • being able to perform frequently as a singer with a band

  • writing songs for your soul

  • supporting my loved ones as well as my friends

  • changing the world for the better, beginning with me

  • working on my personal projects, e.g. my favorite future fashion store

  • Owning and running a farm with my love

  • Staying abroad every three years for six months, at least three times in my life

  • Having children one day

  • Succeeding at and enjoying work

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2. What are things that I like to do?

Linda:

Make people laugh, help people and write

Michelle:

I love to spend quality time with my family, read and write and invest time in the relationships that bring me joy.

Chris:

  • singing

  • communicating

  • thinking

  • having visions and breaking them down to reality

  • supporting/mentoring people

  • writing lyrics

  • exercising with my band

  • having singing lessons with my great singing teacher

  • sparetime activities with my love and/or friends

  • blogging (both communicating and writing)

  • analyzing and solving problems

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Crop of Happy face ball.jpg (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

3. What are things that I don’t like to do?

Linda:

Make small talk it’s inane, why can’t people talk about more interesting things, like the news, not, what’s trending now, or who should win American Idol (UGH) or Dancing with the Stars (ICK).

Michelle:

I do not like to put the laundry away, wash floors, pick up after my kids constantly and I don’t like to tire myself out getting stressed about these things. I also dislike driving in roundabouts (rotaries, traffic circles) which makes driving certain places a challenge because they intimidate me and I will avoid them whenever possible!

Chris:

  • most of the housework so I try to automate it wherever it is possible

  • repetive tasks (except for exercising)

  • eating bad because alternatives are harder to reach or even worse

  • working in a known to be suboptimal way and continuing to work that way

Happiness

Happiness (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

4. What am I good at?

Linda:

I’m one hell of an ex-executive assistant.  I was good before I lost my mind (lol).  I’m also sort of funny and I will continue to improve on my comedy skills.

Michelle:

I am good at writing (I believe) I find being honest very freeing. I am also good at supporting people and things I care about and putting people at ease in stressful situations.

Chris:

  • singing

  • writing

  • communicating

  • analyzing problems

  • solving problems

  • supporting people

  • running my blog (I am still learning but never thought I could met that much wonderful people out here)

Happy Tomatos

Happy Tomatos (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

5. What am I bad at and do I want to change something about it?

Linda:

Speaking up for myself, taking the blame.

Michelle:

I am bad at keeping promises I make to myself due to my terrible time management and I am making efforts to change! I am also bad at hole punching which my former boss and friend likes to remind me. I have no desire to change this because I never desired to me a master hole puncher and every time she punches a hole in a piece of paper she will think of me fondly.

Chris:

  • housework (I am slow and I don’t like to do it so I want to automate it, my birthday wish is a dishwasher)

  • drawing (it is enough for sketches to explain something to somebody, so I might not change it for some time)

  • recognizing vip faces on TV (it is actually fun, so I can live with it)

  • staying serious (sometimes I overdo it with comedy, working on this one)

  • working because I have to (I want to reduce the “have to” work to a minimum, so I will stay with my “I don’t like it, I only do it for the deadline or for not having to worry about it anymore” attitude)

  • if you recognize anything I could be bad at, please let me know so I can decide if I want to change it. Thanks!

Happy Baby! I can't help but smile every time ...

Happy Baby! I can’t help but smile every time I look at this picture. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

6. When do I feel happy?

Linda:

Snuggling with my dog.

Michelle:

I feel happy most of the time but mostly when I have fulfilled my commitments and everyone around me is pleased and happy.

Chris:

  • when I sing

  • when I support/mentor someone

  • when I work on something that means much to me, e.g. on my own projects

  • when I communicate with people I like

  • when I get great feedback and feel connected to someone

  • when things are doing great with my love

  • when I solved a problem

  • when I eat something tasty (even better if it is healthy, too)

A Little Happiness

A Little Happiness (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

7. What is it then that makes me feel happy?

Linda:

Someone warm and adoring to cuddle, who wants nothing more from me than my love.

Michelle:

Being present in my life, managing the details so that everything gets done and my family is satisfied and I am content. Spending time with family, friends and writing!

Chris:

  • for singing it is the harmony of my body, the rhythm and my words reaching out for the audience which gives me a feeling of control and power and meaningfulness

  • for supporting/mentoring someone, it is the feeling that I make a difference and make a life better/show someone how to change his/her life for the better and support him/her doing so

  • for working on something that means much to me, it is the feeling that I am pursuing my dreams and that I could make a difference

  • for communicating, it is the learning, the thinking, the supporting and the emotions and relations which change and mostly improve dynamically and make it exciting and meaningful

  • for getting great feedback, it is recognition and the connection even reinforces this recognition and gets me into support/mentor mode

  • for my love, it is the love and the mutually pursuing of our dreams

  • for having solved a problem, it is the feeling of making a difference and of “fiero

  • for eating well it is the feeling that I have done something I have to in the most enjoyable way

Cropped screenshot of Audrey Hepburn from the ...

Cropped screenshot of Audrey Hepburn from the trailer for the film Roman Holiday. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

8. Is there any chance to trigger the reason for that happiness more often (e.g. by changing your workplace, join your working place community (or found it) or invest more time in a particular spare time activity)?

Linda:

Snuggle with a family member, or at least bond, meet people.

Michelle:

There is definitely a chance for me to be happier more. I need to be accountable to myself, keeping promises I make to me, managing my time better so that I get to do all the things I want to do and saying no to things that I do not have the time to take on. Being productive makes me very happy but I often let my noisy brain slow me down. I often plan too many things at once resulting in me getting emotionally tired!

Chris:

  • I want to change my working position to a kind of mentor/problem manager and teambuilder for at least 20% of my work time by October 2013 (I then have finished my studies and begin to “really” work (before there were only the working phases of my cooperative studies).

  • I want to continually manage my available time to be able to sing, to communicate/to blog, to meet with friends, to work on my projects and to spend great time with my wonderful love.

  • I want to continually analyze when I feel unhappy or unsatisfied and try to change these situations.

Bring Back My Happiness

Bring Back My Happiness (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

9. When do I wish to change something and why do I think this change is impossible instead of trying to go for the change?

Linda:

Negative thinking, self defeating talk, you can find a number of excuses not to do something.  Finding the strength to change is a lot harder than I thought.  Old habits die hard.

Michelle:

I don’t think anything is impossible. The word itself says “I’m Possible”, Audrey Hepburn Quote. As I said above I am my biggest roadblock. I need to hold myself accountable for making the necessary changes to make all the pieces of my life fit together like a completed puzzle. I have made some steps, the biggest one was quitting my job 15 months ago but there are other changes that I need to make. I am fully aware that nobody is responsible for my happiness but me!

Chris:

I never think of change as impossible, I divide it only into “change now, required ressources and opportunities as well as the importance for change do exist” and “change later if it is still necessary then”.

We all live with the objective of being happy,...

We all live with the objective of being happy, our lives are all different and yet the same ———- Anne Frank (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

10. When do I blame others and could I not do something about solving the problem myself if it is that important to me?

Linda:

If something is important to me, or needs to be done “my way”, I do it.  In fact, I usually do everything.  I need to stop doing that.  Things don’t have to always be done your way.  As long as they are helping me.

Michelle:

I try not to blame others for my problems except if they are not contributing their share, therefore making my job more difficult. I have high expectations and I feel a responsibly towards things (for e.g. my volunteer work) I think this is a weakness for me because I sometimes bite off more than I should be comfortably chewing and inevitably my “time management” goes out the window.

Chris:

Whenever I catch myself blaming others, I think about this question and whenever I catch someone blaming others, I ask him/her this question (normally in a more subtle way so that I lead him/her to the answer without having asked this question).

I'm on my way to happiness. Wanna join me?

I’m on my way to happiness. Wanna join me?

These were Linda, Michelle and me answering my key questions to happiness. We are on our way to happiness. If you want to join us, here are the ten questions:

1. What are my personal aims?

2. What are things that I like to do?

3. What are things that I don’t like to do?

4. What am I good at?

5. What am I bad at and do I want to change something about it?

6. When do I feel happy?

7. What is it then that makes me feel happy?

8. Is there any chance to trigger the reason for that happiness more often (e.g. by changing your workplace, join your working place community (or found it) or invest more time in a particular spare time activity)?

9. When do I wish to change something and why do I think this change is impossible instead of trying to go for the change?

10. When do I blame others and could I not do something about solving the problem myself if it is that important to me?

Thank you very much for reading, if you decide to answer these questions please share your answers with me.

Thank you for being here.

Yours sincerely,

Chris

P.S.: You can find more posts of the Sketch Of The Face Of Happiness series here.