Learnings From 30 Days Of Proactivity

Howdy folks,

how are you?

Today, I want to share with you my learnings from having taken the 30 days of proactivity test. As mentioned in my last post in which I introduced my diary for this test to you, I don’t want to dive too deep into theory but in short, I can say that the goal is to work in my circle of influence using my freedom to choose my response to a stimulus and to take and use respons(e)ability this way. Thereby I can grow my circle of influence.

Here are my learnings from having taken the 30 days of proactivity test with a short explanation how I learned it:


  • Know what you want & do it: Sometimes I don’t know what I want to do and feel unhappy about everything I do instead of defining what I want and then doing it.
  • Energy is a question of attitude & mind: Sometimes I feel very tired or slow but most of the time, it is because I don’t lift up my mental energy level.
  • Watch your need for regeneration & spending extreme energy: Sometimes I sleep too little (need for regeneration) or stay all day on the same medium to low energy level (and feel unsatisfied or impatient when going to bed).
  • Have a break from time to time: Sometimes I forget about having a break from time to time and things are getting harder and harder to do.


  • Think about priority & communicate your priorities: I sometimes just work and sometimes, I priorize and let people wait instead of communicating my priorities to them.
  • Structure problems to solve them step by step: I am sometimes frustrated by the complexity of a problem but only because I don’t analyse it in a structured way.
  • Think before doing & ask if unsure: I sometimes just start doing something, sometimes without even knowing if I understood what is the thing to work on.
  • Accept & ask for help: I sometimes want to get everything done on my own.
  • Ask until you understand: I sometimes accept an answer that I don’t understand.
  • Read & follow the manual: If there is a manual, it might be worth reading it instead of feeling frustrated about things that don’t work.


  • Spend your communication time wisely: Sometimes I just listen to a very long and boring conversation without knowing how to take part and without any interest in the topic.
  • Watch your own integrity and be fair to others: Sometimes, especially if I am on a high energy level, I say things that can be understood in a mean way.
  • Look for synergy/understanding: Sometimes, I focus too much on my own way and goal instead of understanding another person’s concerns first.

Well this was a quick post with a heavy load of learning – I hope you enjoyed reading it.

Anyone already read the book (7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey)?

Have a great weekend,




Beautiful Weekend/Proactive Journey Update

Howdy folks,

How have you been? Hope all of you had a beautiful weekend!

I just wanted to share a 1) short thank you and 2) update on my journey towards being a highly effective person.

  1. Thank you for this beautiful weekend. I enjoyed a great dance/dancing party, had an insightful and motivating singing lesson and a very long talk with some nice food and a very good friend of mine. Not to mention the bunch of things I managed to do yesterday – I am happy!
  2. Sorry for the poor quality of the photo but maybe you can still somehow guess it.
    30 days of proacitivity diary - read me in the morning - tell me in the evening

    30 days of proactivity diary – read me in the morning – tell me in the evening

    This is my 30 days of proactivity diary for the application suggestion “30 days proactivity test” for Habit 1 (Be Proactive) of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I use to read my self-made book inlay (shown on the other photo below) every morning and tell my diary how I’ve been doing through the day in the evening. I don’t want to dive too deep into theory but in short, I can say that the goal is to work in my circle of influence using my freedom to choose my response to a stimulus and to take and use respons(e)ability this way. I lack the words sometimes as I can’t make excuses any more but most of the time I feel a lot better because I feel like growing my circle of influence. So tomorrow is day 22 of 30 but I might continue my diary for a while. It is a very good self reflection exercise for me to answer my three questions every day:

    30 days of proactivity diary inlay - how to be proactive and which questions I ask myself every evening

    30 days of proactivity diary inlay – how to be proactive and which questions I ask myself every evening

    Q1. In which situations have you been proactive today?
    Q2. In which situations have you behaved reactively today and which would have been a proactive way of dealing with it?
    Q3. Have you kept the commitment for today and how do you feel about it/what did you learn?
    And I make a commitment for every day which I have always kept except for two times when I only managed to work towards the intentions behind these commitments. Keeping a commitment to yourself every day is a great way to grow, too.

So now I am about to go to bed, getting ready for day 22.

Have a great start of the week and make sure to let me know what is the one thing you want to do most this week!

Cheers to you,


I Am Back – Am I Back?

Hello world,

how have you been?

Just came back here somehow feeling like doing so. Well, what’s new on my side of life?Image

  • I fell in love and I broke up – it was a short but intense time
  • I started studying to become a master degree and stopped studying – it was a short but not wasted time
  • I started to take some dancing lessons and I still enjoy it – it is a weekly delight often clearing my head full of thoughts
  • I am still singing and might perform for the first time since a very long time on stage soon
  • I read a lot of books and discovered a little interest for art and architecture, suggestions welcome on these issues!
  • I might have learned a lot about myself – want to share some thoughts with you right now…
  1. Asking the right questions
    If I don’t know enough about the things I am working on, I tend to try to puzzle things out myself. After some time without finding any working solution, I get frustrated and feel blocked. The way to get back on track: Asking the right questions – or at least asking a team mate for help. Only this way I can improve my knowledge and feel more confident about the work I do. Which leads me to…
  2. Finding the right attitude
    Some days, I tend to shut up and listen and listen and listen and wait, you get it but I didn’t understand the last thing you said but I just keep listening and lose track and you keep talking… This is not the right attitude, I can’t keep staying that passive because I risk to miss a lot of learning opportunities this way. So even if I’m feeling tired or in a bad mood, I need to ask questions if I don’t understand something someone is telling me and not let a monologue happen. I need to keep learning to…
  3. Keep on moving
    I’m 23 years old, been working for seven months now after finishing my studies and I still feel that I’m quite at the beginning of my working career and journey of life. I am getting a clue where I could head for but am still unsure how to get there. But step by step, I keep on moving. Facing challenges instead of suffering from problems – that’s the attitude, dude!

So much from my side of life for now, now it’s up to you:

  • What are the challenges you are currently facing?
  • What’s on your mind?
  • Which is the direction you’re heading for?

Wishing all of you a great time.



I Wanted To Create Something Beautiful

Cover of "Something Beautiful"

Cover of Something Beautiful

“What did you came here for, boy?” she is asking. “I don’t know, I just wanted to create something beautiful, you know? Not even something that lasts but maybe something that creates an emotion that lasts in someone’s heart…” he answers. “But why do you think this is the right place to create that kind of thing?” she is digging deeper, not giving up on her journey to the heart of the truth. “I don’t know, I’ve never been good at drawing. Neither at other visual arts or sports. I mean I have been doing some good sometimes but never anything really beautiful, nothing that made me proud for more than one sec. I tried to write a book but I have never made enough sense to finish it. I wrote some lyrics but none of them was brilliant enough to make me proud for more than a few days yet. Anyway, until recently, I’ve been not that much of a singer to perform a brilliant lyrics in a beautiful way. Now I might dare to give it a try but am lacking the musicians to start this journey together. We’ll see what time does to this option of creating

there are beautiful places

there are beautiful places

something beautiful. But back to your question. I came here to tell the world about the light side of Gamification but was deceived with the first poor amount of feedback I got. After some time, I came back and realized I could write about much more than Gamification. I told the world about my psychosis and recovering from it, about some impressive books I read, about my educational research and ideas, posted some lyrics, photos and invited everyone to join me on my way to happiness. A few months ago I spent a lot of time on this blog every day. I felt like I was making some sense, like I could make a difference to someone. I hope I have done so.”

2013-09-25 14.31.00“Why do you sound like you’ve already closed this chapter?” she cannot resist to proceed with her questioning. “Well, you see I’ve been some weeks off or almost off, for various reasons. One reason is that I broke up with my girlfriend some months ago and then focused more on what I could call ‘real life and real people’. I wanted to meet people face to face and somehow spent less time on this blog. One day, I stopped following my weekly reading list and only answered comments I got here. I began my master studies and worked full time at the same time so I had enough to do during the day and evening that I did not feel a big need to participate that much in the amazing Word Press community anymore. However, I don’t think I’ve closed this chapter yet. I’d rather say I’ve changed to another book but still know where the old one is if one day, I want to come back. And I am sure I will, from time to time, whenever I feel like doing so. You see, the probability to create something beautiful and maybe even meaningful is much higher if you just let it happen and let the inspiration stopping by before beginning to write. The story of my life is not something linear, there are ups and downs, there are times with lots of events and changes and there are times when I feel like waiting for something not knowing what it might be. Why should I ever try to force my writing to be something that my life is not, something regular and linear? By now, with all of my 23 years of existence, I’ve learned that the good things come at the right time.

Walk through this gate with me

Walk through this gate with me

We can always try to improve our self and I try it day by day but I’ve learned about what I call “working with me” and “working against me”. It might sound a bit paradox but I believe both that we can improve ourselves very much and that the best version of ourselves is somehow predetermined. But thinking more about it, I guess it could make sense. In my life, I have often been working against me, muttering a low bass voice in the school choir (now knowing I have a high tenor voice), being very introvert (now knowing that communication and talking is one of my big talents) to list only a few examples. I worked a lot to become more of the Me - Ready for band rehearsalperson I think I am meant to be (this somehow predetermined best version of myself).” “I think I am getting your point”, she uses his short break, not asking a question for the first time in this conversation between the old friends Ms Doubtnosy and Mr Lookatmybigego. “I’ve only one question left: What is this new book you mentioned before about?” she points toward the end of this conversation. “I’m not the guy who reads the last pages first so I can’t tell you yet. The only thing I can tell you is that it is supposed to be about living a big love between two very different people who have a lot in common, who live in different cities but like to watch the same movies, who are from different countries but share the same dream. There might also be some lines about successful master studies, founding a band, playing some gigs, succeeding at work and of course, some dissatisfaction which is also the root of improvement.”

Thank you for reading this interview with myself, I hope you enjoyed doing so. I am here for your comments and whenever you want me to read something or have got a question for me, I will be happy to be of service.

I am wishing all of you the very best for the year to come, enjoy and celebrate these days, my friends.

May peace surround you, love kiss you and happiness be your friend.


Briefly Hit By Happiness

Howdy folks,

Bring Back My Happiness

Bring Back My Happiness (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Do you know this feeling of a very comfortable fit between two persons on a special matter of common activity? Do you know the feeling when it is gone as fast as it came into your life? If you do, I think you understand this post’s title quite well…

A Little Happiness

A Little Happiness (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

But we never give up, you know, we are fighters, for happiness and peace, we shout through the silence and silence the screams calming down the worried and loving the lost ones. Let’s stand together in the desert where a single drop of tear can make a flower grow and swim through the ocean of tears we cry one day or another. A new day will come and the sun will shine on our way. To happiness.

May peace surround you and be happiness your friend celebrating life.


Missing The Sun

Howdy folks,

just searched for some sun on YouTube. Maybe you have some good hints for me?

I like the bridge of this one for its dancing power:

But it did not really bring back the sun…

Why is it that most of the songs tell about sunny days in the past? I need it now…

Thanks to good ol’ Michael Boublé I know at least one song that gives me some sunny feeling, really looking forward to your suggestions for sunny or simply mood-lifting songs!

Hope all of you have a beautiful day.

Celebrate life.


When I Grow Up, I Wanna Be Happy

Howdy folks,

Check out what my brother just shared with me:

This boy is impressive, isn’t he? He is smart, funny and on his way to happiness. Set up my mood again, now I will start some singing and then I might forget about my winter depression that tried to wake up before watching this video. I’m not that tired, I’m not that sad, I should be happy and I will be. Right now.

Celebrate life, I hope you dance (Sorry Michelle but I love these words!).


I Love Loyal Friends

Howdy folks,

Passing on my way to work - looks impressive in the early darkness

Passing on my way to work – looks impressive in the early darkness

how are you? I’ve been off for quite a few days now only replying to comments and sometimes reading one or another blog post but not participating here most of the time. But I have still about 20 views per day and am getting a few comments each day. I’m impressed and want to say thank you for your loyalty!

Well, short update for me so that you know what I am up to do:

Taken on my before last visit at my grandma's

Taken on my before last visit at my grandma’s

Currently I’m quite into “real people” so I try to use every possibility to meet with and talk to people, anyway if for music collaboration, sightseeing or just for passing time because the train is waiting for three hours on its journey to my hometown because someone decided to commit suicide using the train just before us. I am breathing life deep into my veins and am working full time, so blogging falls short these days. No, I guess with these two, blogging would enjoy having very much attention but I am also into educational research and decided to begin a master in IT Management by “homeschooling”. I am so excited to get my first learning materials! Hope to feel like to catch up actively on your news soon, my friends. But feel free to drop me a line telling me what’s happening at yours right now please!

Have a great time and celebrate life.


For you there’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do

Howdy folks,

these words are part of the beautiful song “Hey brother” by Avicii you can listen to playing the video below.

World wide web

World wide web (Photo credit: patrikneckman)

Do you know this feeling of deep love an care for the world? The feeling that you want to change something for the better, to make this world become a better place?

The effects of just one month spent in a Viet ...

(Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I mean sure, many of us are leading quite a good life nowadays but there is still starvation, disease and poverty around. There is also what I would like to call the “intellectual starvation”, the “over-consumption” disease and the “can’t pay my debt rates anymore” poverty in what we think of civilized society. So we can already think about a lot of things to do next door instead of hoping that it never happens to us or that we never become this way. We need to make a change my friends!

I am wondering what are the things I really need in my life. I will try to write down a list here beginning with the material things as they might come easier into my mind:

  • My notebook and smart phone (and the WWW) to work on my research, to collaborate and to communicate with my friends
  • A house and a bed are very nice things though other things might do depending on the climate
  • Clothes look good and might make me feel more comfortable but might not be necessary depending on the climate either
  • I am really a fan of my cosmetics and toothbrush and think most of them help me to lead a better life
  • Piano

    Piano (Photo credit: esc861)

    If I was not a singer, I surely would need some music instruments

  • Something to eat is necessary of course.
  • Because of the way we live, I need some money to satisfy my needs
  • Without friends, family and love, the world would be a much darker place
  • I need to sing because I love it (quite true for my other spare time activities)
  • Okay, let’s definitely add music and arts to this list!

simple (Photo credit: monkeyc.net)

I could have missed something here but I think you might already grasp my point by this rather short list compared to the amount of things one might possess. I already think that I own quite a lot of things I hardly need and might change this fact. But I guess thinking carefully about really needing it before buying something (a proactive strategy) is needed much more. I will keep that in mind!

I hope you will find your way to make our world become a better place. What do you think of? What do you do to make a change?

May peace surround you and be happiness your friend,


P.S.: As I never experienced war, peace is quite natural to me but I guess I should add it to my list. Peace!